Woman defends decision to bring her 10-month-old baby to cousin's child-free wedding
Babies and kids at weddings is often a divisive topic. While some are happy to have little ones at their big day, others not so much.
But generally, as a guest, you're expected to go along with whatever the couple request.
One woman, however, has defended her decision to bring her baby along to her cousin's wedding. Posting on Reddit, the woman explained she wasn't happy leaving her baby with a babysitter, so decided to take the little one along.
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She began: "My cousin lives a 6 hour drive from me and the rest of our family. A few months ago we all drove over there for his wedding. Due to limited space, no children were invited to the wedding except the bride's young nieces and nephews.
"My baby was 10 months old at the time and I wasn't comfortable leaving him alone in an unfamiliar place with a stranger, which was a babysitter that my other cousins hired for their own kids. So I decided to bring him to the wedding.
"I wrote on the RSVP that I was bringing him but he would be sitting on my lap and I would bring my own food for him. My cousin didn't say anything so I assumed that he was OK with it."
The mum explained that she thought all was okay, until the groom's mum had a word with her at the reception.
"My baby cried at the ceremony but I quickly took him out of the room. At the reception I had him with me the whole time in a body carrier. He didn't make much of a fuss and I thought everything was OK," she continued.
"After the wedding my aunt (groom's mom) confronted me and told me that I was rude for bringing my baby without permission.
"I explained that I wrote on the RSVP what I was planning to do but my cousin didn't object. She said that my cousin and his bride had a problem with it but the bride didn't want to start any drama because she doesn't know me well.
"My other cousin's baby was 7 months old at the time and my aunt said that he had no problem leaving his baby with the 'certified' babysitter and I should of done the same. And some of my cousins were upset because they thought that the groom gave me special treatment by letting me bring my baby and making them leave their kids with a babysitter. I didn't mean to start any drama."
Many people on Reddit were not so supportive of the mum, with one writing: "Your baby literally did the thing that the bride/groom wanted to avoid - disrupt the ceremony.
"You had plenty of time to find a babysitter or other family member to watch your kid while you went to the wedding but decided that you were just above the rules."
While another said: "I had a child free wedding and would have been LIVID if a baby was in attendance."
What do you think?
Lucy Devine