A woman on TikTok is being praised for sharing the eight dating rules she uses to weed out the unimpressive suitors.
TikToker Tam Kaur (@tamkaur_) explained all the reasons behind her bullet points and we must say, it all makes a lot of sense.
We're no stranger to the struggles of finding a match in the era of sliding into DMs and dating apps, but thankfully, we now know how to cherry-pick the most well-suited individuals for future dates.
You might've heard of the popular sitcom, 8 Simple Rules... for dating my teenage daughter and here we have a TikToker who has made her own eight dating rules.
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Watch the video below:
The first point addressed on the list is sliding in the DMs and Tam doesn’t accept any old ’hi’, ‘how are you?’ Or ‘what’s up’.
The opening line in a DM tells Tam ‘everything she needs to know’ about the kind of guy he is and how often he slides into DMs.
“Keep it respectful and don’t basic,” she warns in the two minute clip.
“Start an interesting conversation if you’re genuinely interested in the person I am.”
For point number two, dubbed the ‘Pre stalk’ the TikToker admits she will ‘stalk’ her potential dates ‘on everything’.
“I have too," she confesses. "I’m a woman. Before I even proceed to reply to your message I’m going through your following, I’m going through your posts, I’m going through all your accounts on all social media apps. If I find problematic tweets - not talking to you.
"If you’re following a bunch of girls that aren’t following you back on Instagram - ick!”
Point number three is ‘The 7 day deadline’, which is pretty simple. Guys have seven days to ask her on a date from the moment they begin talking, otherwise she’ll cut them off.
“I’m not trying to be out here texting you for weeks before you can actually ask me on a date," she declares. "We’re adults. Grow up and get to it."
Number four is ‘This is a test’. Tam says she ‘quietly sits back’ in the beginning of the talking stage to ‘chill and observe everything' the guy does.
She says she shouldn’t have to ask for the other person to plan a date or to ‘court me like a gentleman’ because they should already know.
Fifth on the list is ‘First date standards,’ and it describes what Tam expects out of the first date. It should be ‘short, sweet, in a public place, in the daytime and without any alcohol on the first one’.
Walks and trips to the guy’s house are also off the table.
‘The bare minimum’ is number six and it includes ‘loyalty, respect, communication, listening to the conversation, making eye contact’. Potential dates should avoid looking at their phones and say please and thank you to service staff as well.
According to number seven, titled ‘Energy and mentality’, Tam says she is only attracted to ‘healthy masculine energy and a provider mentality’.
She admits: “I’m in it for a soft girl life. I’m not taking care of you.”
The eight and final rule is ‘Physical intimacy’. She explains: “Just because you took me out and paid for my dinner, doesn’t mean I owe you any sort of physical intimacy.”
The video, which was posted along with the hashtags #highstandards and #bareminimum has amassed over 17,000 likes and thousands of appreciative comments.
One woman commented: "THIS is literally the bare minimum but from a man’s point of view it’s too much.”
A second TikTok user shared: “Seriously. I can’t stand texting a guy and him not putting effort to ask me out. Bye!!!!!”
Another replied: “This LITERALLY isn’t too much!! This is setting your own standards and not settling for less. U go queen, I’m saving this video.”
While a fourth wrote: “Love these rules, knowing your worth is so important.”
Topics: Sex and Relationships, TikTok
Gregory Robinson