Man accuses wife of being lazy as she refuses to go back to work after giving birth
People are hailing down on a husband after he accused his wife of 'living a life of sheer laziness' for being a stay-at-home mum.
A husband has written into an agony aunt, branding his wife as 'just being lazy' for not returning to her job two years after giving birth, instead choosing to stay at home and raise their child.
They say it takes a village to raise a child, but clearly, this husband thinks it should only take one woman and she should also have time to clean, cook and buy groceries for their family too.
It sounds like this Ken needs to go and see Barbie and have his eyes opened a bit, but why don't you take a look at his letter for yourself?
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Writing to Mail Online's agony aunt Jane Green, the husband explains his wife has been a stay-at-home mum ever since giving birth to their 'wonderful son' two years ago.
He writes: "She always talked about going back to work after six months of maternity leave, which turned into a year, which then turned into 18 months… And two years later here we are."
The husband notes he initially 'understood' his wife's choice to stay at home to 'bond' with their child, however, he adds: "Now it feels like she really just can't be bothered to actually get up and do anything."
The husband said his wife sits with their son 'watching TV all day,' doesn't 'bother to do any chores' and it's left him feeling like he's the 'only one actually doing anything to contribute to the household'.
He condemns his partner as seeming like she's 'just embraced a life of sheer laziness and doesn't want to give it up' - his wife not getting groceries, cooking or cleaning for the family.
The father concludes: "She claims that childcare is so expensive that it would cost us more to have her back in a job, but at this point the extra cost would be worth it to me just to see her get off her butt and take some action.
"I know if I speak this candidly to her, she's going to accuse me of being cruel - but I'm not sure how to get the message across properly without her seeing me as the villain?"
People are flocking to Twitter in horror over how the husband speaks about the mother of his child.
One user said: "If only misogynists knew what it was like to give birth and then cope with a newborn baby on top of the vaginal stitches, postnatal depression, and mastitis.."
"Disgusting behaviour from the woman... She should have had the baby in her lunch hour and then gone straight back to work.... What's wrong with the women of today..." another added.
And a third resolved: "You take care of your baby 24/7 for a few months and see if you think you are lazy."
But what did the expert have to say?
Well, agony aunt Green highlighted to the husband his wife may have postpartum depression.
Green warns: "Whatever the case, it sounds to me very much like your wife needs help, and that what you perceive as laziness is actually something more going on, that she is quite possibly entirely unaware of."
The agony aunt notes the husband is 'right to intervene' but should 'lovingly' tell his wife about his concerns.
She advises: "Seeing her health care provider would be my first suggestion, for a complete blood panel. They can then work out a plan of action, whether it's seeing a counsellor or taking medication.
"This is far more normal than you might expect, and I imagine everyone, you, your son and your wife, will be delighted when she finds her way back to herself."
If you're experiencing distressing thoughts and feelings, the Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) is there to support you. They're open from 5pm–midnight, 365 days a year. Their national number is 0800 58 58 58 and they also have a webchat service if you're not comfortable talking on the phone
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Poppy Bilderbeck