Mum Forces Son To Apologise To Girl For Calling Her 'Fat' And 'Ugly'
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A mum was left totally mortified after she discovered her son had messaged a girl at school calling her 'fat' and 'ugly'.
Samm Jane was fuming when she discovered the texts, and marched her son Dave (whose name has been changed) over to the girl's house to apologise. You can watch a clip below:
In the TikTok video, Samm explained she'd had a phone call from the school, who alerted her to the messages.
And when the 12-year-old returned home, Samm immediately went through his phone and discovered the texts.
After finding out the girl's address, Samm marched Dave over to apologise, along with flowers and chocolates.
Samm says she forced Dave to apologise to the girl and her parents, who later commended Samm for being a 'decent parent' and coming by to apologise.
"I got a call from my son's school to let me know he'd been throwing pencils in class," she said.
"Then the woman on the phone said 'We don't know what's been said, but we're aware that Dave's been sending nasty text messages to one of the girls in his class'.
"I asked who it was, but they couldn't say because of data protection. So I was sitting on this information for three hours until my son got home from school.
"I needed to know what he said. I never thought he'd be like this, I'd raised him to never disrespect a girl. I'm a female, I'm a single mum, he should respect me and everybody else around him."
Samm explained how she made Dave unlock his phone when he was home from school.
"I took his phone and made him unlock it. He'd sent this girl texts saying 'I never want to see your ugly face in school. Your ugly face and fat body offend me'," Samm said.
"She'd text him back saying 'Stop being horrible to me'. He'd sent voice notes as well going 'Urgh, you're disgusting.'
"I was shaking with anger. I was livid. I was like 'What are you playing at?' and my son goes 'She does my head in at school.'
"And I said 'I don't give a f**k if she does your head in at school. What gives you the right to speak to her like that?'
"I told him 'She's going to be looking in the mirror now and feeling so insecure'. I couldn't let it go.
"I got on the phone and I made a few calls. Everybody in my area knows where everybody lives, so I found out through one of my neighbours where this girl lives.
"I told Dave we were going around to apologise. Not only to the girl, but to her parents, to her aunts, to her uncles, to whoever was in that house.
"I took him to the shop. I gave him £10 of his birthday money and told him to go into the shop to get some flowers and chocolates.
"I walked him down to the girl's house, and I was fuming. I knocked on the door and the girl answered. I asked if her parents were in, and she brought them to the door.
"I said 'My son has something to say to your daughter', and he stands there going 'I'm sorry'. I made him speak up and repeat himself.
"I made him say what he was sorry for. The mum wasn't aware of it, the girl hadn't told her mum.
"I repeated everything that Dave said to her, and the girl's dad 'I'm not going to lie mate, if you were a grown ass man and you said that to my daughter, I would have kicked your head in'.
"The girl accepted the apology, he gave her the flowers and the chocolates. I said 'He will never speak to you like that again'."
Since the apology, Samm has made sure Dave understands the consequences his words can have.
Samm has also confiscated Dave's electronic devices for a week after what happened.
"I sat Dave down and explained how people kill themselves or self-harm because of what people say," Samm continued.
"I couldn't believe he'd said these things. As punishment, I took his phone off him. He tried giving me money to get his phone back, but I said no.
"I'm raising a man. My son doesn't have that male role model so I have to teach him how to be a man and make sure he's respectful to people.
"As a single mum, I've tried to do my best by him. For him to disrespect a female, it feels like he is disrespecting me.
"I've always told him about body positivity, about how women come in different shapes and sizes. That's why I was so angry - why would he say all these things when I've told him to be respectful?
"He disappointed me. He's absolutely taken it on board since. The two of them are friends now, it just shows how forgiving and kind she is. She's a lovely girl."
And since sharing the story on TikTok, Samm has been praised for how she handled the situation.
One TikTok user wrote: "Proper old school parenting, well done. You're a great mum and a great person."
While another commented: "Yes queen. If my boys ever do anything like this, I will be doing exactly the same!! So proud of you."