Man Divides Opinion After Calling His Wife 'Not The Most Beautiful Woman'
Ali Condon
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One man has single-handedly riled up the people of the internet after describing his fiancée as 'not the most beautiful woman' in an Instagram post dedicated to her.
Speaker, life coach, and activist Solomon Buchi had people up in arms after sharing a series of photos of his fiancée Adeola Arike to Instagram and Facebook and declaring his love for her.
After referring to his partner as 'not the most beautiful/intelligent', Buchi explained that it was a 'realistic base for real love', but followers weren't having it, and didn't hesitate to call out his 'humiliating' relationship tribute.
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Solomon's original post, which has now muted comments on Instagram and limited comments on Facebook, read: "You’re not the most beautiful woman; neither are you the most intelligent woman, but I’ve chosen to never find perfection in anyone else. I put my gaze on you, and with that commitment, we would [mould] ourselves for ourselves. Our perfection is in our commitment.
"Stating that you’re not the most beautiful/intelligent might sound like it’s not a compliment, yeah? But it’s a realistic base for real love. Acknowledging that my woman isn’t the best, but I’m not looking for the best. I was looking for you and I found you. There’s no best, there is just someone you choose and see the best in them.
"This to me is the real love. Not the one that consoles itself in the faux reality that their partner is the most good looking, most intelligent, most successful person in the world. That’s disingenuous and doesn’t give room for love to thrive. My love for you isn’t about you being the best, it’s about you being you. There’s just no other you."
Some saw the sweet side of Solomon's post, and took to the comments to let him know so.
"I love how you express your love for Arike. It's so beautiful" commented one follower.
"Absolutely beautiful and heartfelt.. When love is right.. Its beautiful", wrote another.
But, while opinions were certainly divided, the majority of comments came from people who couldn't quite believe what they had just read.
After reading how Buchi spoke about his wife-to-be, one furious user wrote: "This is so cringe worthy and you just succeeded in humiliating her. Meanwhile she's a 10.
"Your woman should be the most beautiful person in your eyes despite her flaws and imperfections. Your write-up shows you're just managing or settling for her until you find your 'most beautiful, most intelligent, most endowed woman.'"
Another horrified viewer asked: "Why would you post this? Making someone you love feel like they aren't the most beautiful or the most intelligent is insulting even if you didn't mean it to be that way. I know what you are trying to say but you should've worded it differently."
"This is rude, humiliating and completely unnecessary to publicly state" commented a third. "You don’t sound deep or intellectual. You sound like a man who should be alone. This woman is gorgeous and I hope she finds somebody who will tell her so."
And a fourth penned: "You posted a full portrait of that woman's face & opened up this post with "you're not the most beautiful woman in the world." Audacity must be FREE on EVERY corner!!! Absolutely tf not."