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The creator, who goes by @general.caronobi on the video sharing app, insisted that the code has saved her family from countless arguments and teaches their daughter about making good decisions at the same time. Sounds like a winner to us!
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Explaining that she works from home and her husband homeschools their young daughter, the mother explained that the secret code quickly became their family's "one rule".
Raving about the family trick, she told TikTok viewers: "I cannot tell you the amount of arguments this has saved."
She added: "It allows our daughter to see us, as adults, making decisions with her instead of for her."
The secret code that her family uses is simply called "YCYC" or "Your Choice, Your Consequence."
Breaking down the meaning of the code, mother said: "It just means you can do whatever you want, as long as the consequence belongs to you and you understand it.
"If something has a consequence that doesn't belong to you, then it's not your consequence, so you can't make that choice. You have to ask for consent."
In a follow-up video, she gave an example of a time she used the code with her family.
"It's like, if my kid wants to stay up all night, I don't care... but because of everything, we don't have any space from each other, so I need her to leave us alone at night," said the mother.
"In that case, the consequence would be my loss of free time, which doesn't belong to her so she can't make the choice. The choice she can make is to stay up all night in her room if she wants to."
"When my husband and I use it, it's usually because one of us doesn't want to take responsibility for what happens next and we don't want to argue about it. So if we don't want to make our kid feel responsible for a disagreement, we will behind her back [signal YCYC], and the other person can either drop it or take the responsibility."
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