For many of us, it’s a total dream to be there when our best friend is getting married.
We daydream about going with her to her dress fitting, planning her hen do and maybe even being the Maid of Honour.
One thing we don’t think about too much is her turning into a total bridezilla in the process.
But sadly, this has been the case for one anonymous woman in the US, who has since taken her dilemma to Reddit.
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According to the poster, she and her best friend, 'Lily', had been 'inseparable' since they were kids.
"Coming from a small town with little to offer, we promised each other we'd be there through thick and thin." she said. "Our backgrounds are humble, and we've both faced our share of struggles, supporting each other no matter what."
During college, Lily met her fiancé 'Evan', who is from a 'well-off family', and after he proposed, the bride-to-be asked her best friend to be her Maid of Honor, which she was 'thrilled' to be.
However, OP's dream of 'all the fun stuff', like 'dress shopping and bachelorette planning', all came crashing down when Lily 'requested a sit-down'.
She continued to say: “She presented me with a ‘Maid of Honor Makeover Plan’ … a detailed regime for me to change my appearance drastically before the wedding.”
You may be thinking, how bad can it be?
Well, it turns out, pretty bad.
OP went on to explain: “Lily wanted me to dye my vibrant red hair to a more "understated" shade to avoid clashing with the wedding palette, get a spray tan to "blend in better" with the other bridesmaids, and she hinted heavily at me losing at least 20 pounds to "fit perfectly" into the designer dress she had picked out.”
Initially thinking it was a joke, she tried to laugh it off but Lily was ‘dead serious’, claiming 'it was all in the spirit of having the perfect wedding photos, heavily influenced by the expectations of Evan's family'.
However, this felt like a 'slap in the face' to her and the pair began arguing and 'words were thrown that we could never take back'.
“In a moment of hurt and anger, I told her if my appearance was more important than our friendship, perhaps she should find another Maid of Honour." she said.
“Lily accused me of abandoning her and destroying our friendship over something so trivial.
"We haven't spoken since that day.”
With the wedding approaching fast and pressure from the rest of the bridal party, she is wondering whether or not she'd overreacted.
The thread has since garnered over a lot of comments - many of which were supportive of the former maid of honour.
One person wrote: “Please do not apologise. What she was asking is disgusting. Find new friends.”
Another said: “Your friend has obviously been listening to her future family, probably including her husband, which tells you a lot about all of them.
"Dye your natural hair color and fit into a designer dress? It's so superficial and pathetic, actually.”
While a third echoed: “The point of having a Maid of Honor and bridesmaids is to have the people you love standing up for you on your wedding day. Not to create perfect wedding photos.
"You deserve better.”
Kya Buller