Dad Tells Daughter She's 'Asking For Men To Look' After Wearing Low-Cut Swimsuit

A woman has taken to Reddit to ask for advice after her dad made a comment about her low-cut swimming costume.

Explaining she had been subjected to a humiliating comment from a passerby when she was sat by a pool, the woman said she felt "embarrassed" and "awkward".

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"I live on the other side of the country from my parents so I don’t see them often," she wrote.

"They are in town visiting and we all went to the pool. I am wearing a low-cut swimsuit (lower than usual for me), but nothing too crazy. I was sitting with my dad by the pool.

"A man walked by and took a long look at me and kind of gestures to his own chest area and said 'boy, I’d like to get inside there!' (Inside my top, I guess?) I felt embarrassed.

"After the man passed and a few more awkward moments of silence later, I said 'well that was awkward' just to say something I guess.

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"My dad replied, 'well, you are looking for attention like that. Women who wear that kind of swimsuit top are asking men to look'.

"I fell silent. I didn’t know what to say. I went to the bathroom and started crying. Now I’m so embarrassed to be wearing this and I don’t think I can handle being around my dad the rest of the week.

"I expected... better from him, I guess? I just was having a good day and now feel so sh***y because of these two men.

"Edit: Ooookay, my dad must have said something to my mom. She just asked me if there was a way to take a safety pin and close my top more securely.

"She said 'it looks like you’re trying too hard with how it is.' I don’t think I can stand to be around either of them another second. I feel so awkward, humiliated, sl***y... and angry at them."

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And other Reddit users had plenty of thoughts on the situation, with one commenting on the post: "Wait wait. It's your fault someone looked at you and got nasty? Nah. You aren't their mommy who is supposed to tell them how to behave in public and your parents have zero right defending their position and not their daughter's.

"You are free to disengage yourself from talking to your parents if they can't be respectful. As parents they should always be willing to back you up."

While another added: "You could be topless and it’s not an invitation to look, let alone make sexually explicit comments.

"That man sexually harassed you and your dad signed off on it because he decided you were asking for it with how you were dressed.

"This has nothing to do with you or your body. This is an age old problem faced by most women most places wearing most things. I’m so sorry."

And a third said: "You are not in the wrong here. You should be able to wear what you like, without having to deal with creepy comments."

Topics: Life, Parenting, Fashion

Lucy Devine

Lucy is a journalist working for Tyla. After graduating with a master's degree in journalism, she has worked in both print and online and is particularly interested in fashion, food, health and women's issues. Northerner, coffee addict, says hun a lot.

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