Wedding Guest Asks For Advice After Refusing To Pay For Meal At Wedding
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Travel, accommodation and outfits for your friends’ nuptials can be expensive – and then you have to think about gifts, party favours and a litany of other charges.
Which is why one wedding guest has taken to Reddit’s r/bridezillas forum to ask whether they are being ‘unreasonable’ for not wanting to pay for their own food on the big day.
User ‘littlenoodloo’ explained: “It's a close friend's wedding in a few months time and everyone on the guestlist has been asked to pay $110/£80 to cover the cost of their own meal instead of buying a wedding gift. It was worded in a way that very much made it sound like you would be taken off of the guestlist if the money wasn't sent through soon.
“If it were a small wedding and they were keeping costs low I feel like this would be more understandable, however the bride and groom have spent thousands on their big day so it feels a little cheeky to me to expect everyone to cough up to attend their 'special day.’"
“I feel like the wedding has got totally out of hand but so no one feels like they can step in and say anything as the bride has a history of mental health issues, but I can imagine I am not the only one to be feeling uncomfortable about this situation,” they added.
“They both earn triple figures and it's up to them how they want to spend their money but I feel like there's a lack of understanding about how much money their guests are already spending on attending this wedding. We are having to pay for stag and hen parties, new outfits (there is also a specific dress code) hotels, travel, alcohol, and take time off of work as the wedding isn't on a weekend. It feels like the last thing they could have provided us with was a meal.”
The guest continued that they were currently saving money to buy a house and they could do with that money.
And it seems like Reddit is firmly on the side of the original poster.
“By requiring people to pay for their own meals, they've come across as tacky to everyone and inconsiderate to guests who can't afford that expense (or yet another expense, in OP's case). The only thing they're doing is guaranteeing a smaller guest list and, if that was what they wanted, there are far better ways to do so than this,” one person responded.
“This is so tacky, I could never imagine asking guests if invited to my wedding to pay for their own food,” a second agreed.
“This couple have often and clearly exhibited that they can afford upwards of what the average person can afford or spend on a wedding. Is it expensive to feed and booze people up? Certainly. But after multiple celebrations and unnecessary themed festivities, I would sit the wedding out, as my funds would have already been depleted.”
Hmmm…this wedding may be seeing fewer guests following this Reddit post.