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Women Explain Why They Asked Their Husbands To Take Their Surname

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Women Explain Why They Asked Their Husbands To Take Their Surname

With pandemic restrictions finally lifted, it means that engaged couples all over the UK are firmly focusing their attention on postponed trips up the aisle without fear of having to follow Covid-19 rules.

And while excitement brews among those planning on saying 'I do', there's also a conversation being had among women and their partners who don't want to follow the norm and adopt their husband's family name.

In fact, a recent BBC article reported that as of 2016, 10 percent of all married women in the UK hadn't taken their husband's surname, which got us thinking, 'would you ask your future husband to take your surname?'

So in true Tyla style, we asked our audience that very question and the answers were eye-opening, progressive and overall food for thought.

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One reader explained: "Kept my surname and children have my surname too. Hubs has his name currently, he says is willing to change it but I don't really mind if he doesn't.

"I wanted to pass on my dads surname as it's dying out in our family, my husband knows it was important to me and I wouldn't have married the kind of guy that would care about backwards traditions anyway!" (sic).

"My husband took my surname. It was his choice & because our children had my surname & he didn't want us to be different. He hated his so changed it to mine," another shared.

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A third told us: "My fiancé is taking my last name as he doesn't want his family name. It was his choice as well and our youngest had my surname ready for when we get married."

As of 2016, 10 percent of women in the UK didn't take their husband's surname (credit: Unsplash)
As of 2016, 10 percent of women in the UK didn't take their husband's surname (credit: Unsplash)

"My husband took my last name. He asked if he could for a few different reasons," another reader recounted. "Also, If I would've taken his, no one would have been able to pronounce my last name."

Interestingly, our discussion revealed that some couples are choosing to fuse their surnames together - or even choose a new one altogether - á la journalist Dawn O'Porter.

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A reader told us: "We created a new surname out of individual syllables of our surnames and changed both our names by deed poll. Can't get fairer than that really!"

"In the end after much discussion we ended up double barrelling our name," another shared. "I don't think everyone approves but it's our choice.

"Now we and our child are all sharing one family surname as neither of us wanted to be different from our child but we each didn't want to lose our own surname."

Tyla readers were open about their experience (Credit: Unsplash)
Tyla readers were open about their experience (Credit: Unsplash)
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While some proclaimed they're "traditionalists" when it comes to taking their husband's surname, overall, there was a reassuring sense that not everyone has to follow the same path.

It cemented the thought that your married name, whether it's your maiden name, your partner's or an amalgamation of both, is totally down to you and your spouse.

So if you're looking to do things a little differently then go for it - you've got support out there.

Featured Image Credit: Unsplash

Topics: Life, Real Life, Wedding

Lisa McLoughlin
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