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Woman Divides Opinion For Refusing To Name Newborn Daughter After Husband's Dead Ex-Wife

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Woman Divides Opinion For Refusing To Name Newborn Daughter After Husband's Dead Ex-Wife

A mum has taken to Facebook for advice, after revealing her husband wants to name their unborn daughter after his ex-wife, who passed away.

In a post on social media, shared via Kidspot, the woman explained she felt it was "a step too far".

"So my husband and his family say that I'm over-reacting by refusing to name our (not yet born) daughter after his deceased ex-wife," she explained.

"I know that it's sad that she passed away but I think I am being reasonable enough by having their wedding pics still about as well as him wearing their wedding rings around his neck. I think naming our child after her is a step too far. Am I wrong?"

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The woman explained her husband wanted to name their baby after his ex (Credit: Unsplash)
The woman explained her husband wanted to name their baby after his ex (Credit: Unsplash)

And the post has certainly divided opinion among social media users. The majority agreed with the mum, with one commenting: "In my opinion I wouldn't think your being unreasonable at all I would feel that is a bit too weird... yes its sad that she has passed but you shouldn't be pressured to name your daughter after her."

"I think having their wedding pics around is weird, maybe a pic or two of her is fine but not their wedding pics! Wedding ring on his necklace is probably ok. Naming your child after her is NOT ok!!!! Your husband potentially needs to seek professional help to assist him in finding healthy ways to mourn his late wife," another added.

Meanwhile a third commented: "That's so wrong of him and his family. This is a child he's having with you, imagine how this child will feel when she's older and is told who she's named after. Sorry this is wrong on every level. You give her a name she'll be proud of and you like. Good luck."

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Many said they would not be comfortable with wedding photos up around the house (Credit: Shutterstock)
Many said they would not be comfortable with wedding photos up around the house (Credit: Shutterstock)

One mum explained she had been in the same situation 14 years ago, explaining her now teenage daughter is "disgusted" by the decision she was forced to make.

"Yep happened to me, wish I'd put up more of a fight. Also my now 14 year old daughter is disgusted and angry by decision," she said.

Others were more understanding of the request, however, with one suggesting a middle name instead. "I think for me it would depend on whether she was his ex wife that passed away or if she was still his wife when she passed away," they said. "I would also consider potentially a middle name rather than a first name."

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Others were more understanding of the request (Credit: Shutterstock)
Others were more understanding of the request (Credit: Shutterstock)

While one person added: "I've done this, and it was my suggestion, not his! His poor wife only lived until 24 years old, and didn't get to have children. Why be jealous/feel threatened by someone who's passed away?

"It's the only way we can live on, in hearts and memories of those left on earth. There's enough love to go around; people with more than one child find their heart expands to include more children; why can't a husband feel the same way? Unrequited love for a wife lost, a different love for a new wife, who has hopefully helped him heal."

What do you think?!

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Topics: Life News, Babies, Parenting

Lucy Devine
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