A man has been slammed as "controlling" after he told his future wife she couldn't wear white on their wedding day.
Posting on Reddit's AITA forum, the man asked other users for advice, explaining his fiancée was upset by his comments.
"So me (32M) and my soon to be wife (23F) are planing to get married in a few months," he began.
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"I come from a very religious house hold with strong Christian beliefs and one of the traditions in my family is if the woman getting married isn't still a virgin they shouldn't wear a white dress on their wedding day.
"My family knows my soon to be wife wasn't a virgin when I met her because my mom asked me when I started dating her if she was pure, and I was honest and told her she had boyfriends before she met me.
"My wife was really upset when I asked her if she could wear a coloured dress on our wedding day but she agreed, so we're looking at getting glittery blue dress instead.
"Now she's saying she won't marry me because she's too humiliated by the whole situation, but I really don't see how it's a big deal. AITA?"
And Reddit users had some very strong views on the matter, with the post racking up thousands of comments from people slamming the man as "controlling".
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One woman said: "YTA. I am a 65 year old Christian grandmother and that is an unkind, judgemental and controlling thing for you to do.
"Truly it is spirit crushing to hear when people pretend that this kind of finger-pointing idea is Christian in nature. He makes all things new.
"If you want to love and honour her as your wife ask her forgiveness and God's for being unkind and encourage her to choose whatever dress she wants."
While another added: "YTA I can't believe you're trying to publicly shame her on your wedding day. Are you a virgin? Should you wear something on to identify your shame?! She should run!"
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Meanwhile one commented: "Yes, it is a big f***ing deal to tell your future wife she's unworthy of wearing a white dress to her own wedding. What the f***?
"And how on earth did you think it was ok to discuss your girlfriend's sexual history with anyone other than her? The only acceptable response to your mother asking about it was, 'That's not an appropriate question. You need to back off.' Reading this made my skin crawl. YTA."
One simply added: "YTA - she can wear whatever dress she wants. If you hold that much judgement maybe she should move on and find someone who accepts her for her."
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