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Bride Refuses To Attend Her Own Hen Do Because It's Too 'Over The Top'

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Bride Refuses To Attend Her Own Hen Do Because It's Too 'Over The Top'

Ah, weddings - as much as you just want to tie the knot with the love of your life, there's so much you have to prepare (and maybe even brace yourself for) in the run-up to the big day.

One of these such events is the hen do, typically organised by your bridesmaids - and while some of us may opt for a more raucous affair complete with loads of booze, dancing and blow-up dolls, some of us would just prefer a quiet night in with your girls.

Some people opt for more raucous hen dos than others (Credit: Unsplash)
Some people opt for more raucous hen dos than others (Credit: Unsplash)

And one poor bride-to-be has found herself stuck with the hen do of her worst nightmares - and is now even contemplating not attending at all.

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Sharing her dilemma on the Modern Wedding Facebook page, the woman in question wrote: "My hen party has been planned and it's not me at all! I specifically asked for a low-key event, nothing too over the top. I'm not somebody who likes to party but my friends are.

"They've organised a massive night out with 'butlers' and everything! I really don't want to go...to my own hen party!"

The bride was hoping for a more classy affair (Credit: Pexels)
The bride was hoping for a more classy affair (Credit: Pexels)

Thankfully, the future bride has found others were sympathetic to her predicament, with other brides having found themselves in the same position.

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"I had the same thing happen to me! I hated mine!" one woman wrote. "I wanted a dinner and some amazing cocktails at a fancy water side bar. Instead everyone left me and went to a strip club that I didn't want to go to as well, as forcing me to go to a night club I didn't want to go to!

"It was the worst night. I wish I had stood my ground and said no, this is it what I want."

A second penned: "I'm having the same issue, I said I didn't want anything after my original request was taken and pretty much thrown away.

Would you consider not going to your own hen? (Credit: Unsplash)
Would you consider not going to your own hen? (Credit: Unsplash)
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"I've said I don't want anything then, I've said I'll probably go for a nice meal with some cocktails the night before at the hotel we are staying at, but I've got a feeling they are planning something anyway, and I'm so uncomfortable."

Others insisted that the bride was honest with her pals about how she was feeling about the planned hen.

"Tell them. They can plan that kind of night for themselves any time," asserted one person. "They're your friends, talk to them."

The bride to be wanted a more refined affair (Credit: Unsplash)
The bride to be wanted a more refined affair (Credit: Unsplash)
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Another wrote: "Open your mouth. Tell them. My Bachelorette was me and my maid of honour spending the day at the beach, and it was perfect."

A third pitched in: "I was pretty clear I didn't want a hen at all and my Maid of Honour totally respected that and threw me a small impromptu shower the night before the wedding. Just be honest and tell them it's not your vibe."

While a fourth added: "Explain to your maid of honour if you have one. Tell her you've already stated you wanted something low-key. Ask her to cancel this event, and that you'd appreciate so much if they plan something small. Maid of honour can relay to rest of group.

"Maybe they thought you didn't want to inconvenience them so they planned something huge thinking you really didn't want something small."

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Topics: Life News, Life, Sex & Relationships, engagement, Wedding

Kimberley Bond
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