We Need To Talk About How Jordan Spoke To Anna On Last Night's 'Love Island'
"What are you on about?"
"Why are you thinking too much into it?"
"F*cking hell, it's not the end of the world."
"Why are you screaming and shouting?"
"You're embarrassing - you're actually embarrassing"
These are all things Jordan Hames said to Anna Vakili in the space of 24 hours, just two days after he asked her to be his girlfriend with a romantic tour of their personal villa highlights.
Last night saw one of the most explosive episodes of the series as the 23-year-old model made a dramatic U-turn, admitting his feelings for new girl, model India, despite going official with the 28-year-old pharmacist.
On a conversation on the day beds, Jordan and Anna sit down to discuss the distance they've had within the last day, the Mancunian quashes her doubts that he had been avoiding her, and has been spending time with India - "Why are you thinking too much into it?," he asks.
This is a classic example of gaslighting, a type of manipulation, usually occurring in relationships, where a person makes someone else feel like they've done something wrong when they haven't. They can be caused to doubt their own sanity, think they're being over paranoid and going crazy when they're not.
When in fact, Anna wasn't overthinking at all: moments earlier Jordan had told Curtis Pritchard his head was fully focused on India.
If anything, she was spot on. Her intuition had kicked in the night before when she told the girls on the beanbags "something's not right". During her conversation with Jordan on the daybeds, Anna asks him why he didn't give her a kiss the night before (his excuse "I was tired") and repeated "something's telling me something's not right."
Later on, when Anna confronts Jordan just as he's telling India his feelings for her, Jordan continues to make Anna feel like she's overreacting. She asks him "you like her?" and he replies while smirking, "I'm having a conversation with her," and straight up lies "I haven't said that I like her."
Even during the showdown, instead of admitting he likes India, he uses Anna having a few low days as his get out clause. "You're the most negative person I've ever met in my whole life," he says, repeating "All you are is negative the whole time, it's so boring."
Disclaimer: This is written by someone who was a massive Jordan fan two days ago. I thought he was charming, witty and mature beyond his 23 years. I'm also not much of an Anna fan, truth be told. I find her overdramatic and kind of two-faced.
Even so, you can't help but watch Jordan's treatment towards Anna with a knot in your stomach.
The worrying part is how normal this kind of behaviour seems in relationships. Jordan hasn't done anything we don't see all the time. There's even been instances of it in this series, such as when Joe Garratt made Lucie Donlan feel bad for being friends with Tommy Fury. Many people reading this might have been exposed to it in their own relationships.
Looking after our mental health is a tricky enough task as it is, and the last person you expect to exacerbate it is the person you're meant to trust the most.
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